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geekdawson:

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

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powrightinthekisser:

This is Money Marge. Reblog for a miracle of finances to come to you

🙏🏾💰💵

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bifacts:

Fact: Today (September 23rd) is bisexuality awareness day. Be aware of bisexuals. They are dangerous.

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ourfamilysystem:

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone of any nationality and ethnicity.

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community.

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone with a disability or disorder.

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone who has experienced or is experiencing trauma.

Reblog if your page is a safe space.

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gothiccharmschool:

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idk im really tired of 15-17 year olds who have never interacted with the gay community irl and spend too much time on tiktok trying to act like the authority on all that is lgbt+ 

  mean this in the kindest possible way. if you are too young and unsafe to go to your gay community center or pride here’s some ways you can connect to gay history.

• the oral history project from act up
• the lesbian herstory archives
• the transgender archives of the university of victoria
• the digital transgender archives
• glbt historical society (digital)
• lgbtq digital collaboratory
  
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since it was suggested in the tags

anything that moves

the bisexual manifesto

the Samuel Proctor oral history project

a masterpost of lesile feinberg’s works by @genderoutlaws

more to come

• the queer zine archive
• the dyke march compilation 
• paris is burning 
• how to survive a plague
• united in anger: a history of ACT UP
  
• one archives
• new york public library lgbtq archives

Dear Other Het Folks: You need to explore these resources, too. If we’re going to be allies, we need to be informed. 

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atlinmerrick:

(Will never not reblog this beauty. What genius.)

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peribytes:

thenatsdorf:

:3

these faces get me every time

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edda-for-dummies:

watch-your-grammer:

I lost a follower last time, let’s do this again!! If you disagree with any of these get off my blog please and thank you!

Just in case we’re all clear.

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everythingfox:

Baby bear catching snowflakes

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shisasan:

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